SPEAKER_05 3:34–6:34
So when to seek help is actually kind of an easy one because at some point in time, you're not going to be able to answer the questions all by yourself. It's important though that you make the attempt first because in many cases and because of the prolific nature of information and the instantaneous access, a lot of these questions can be answered in some way, shape or form, because again, like I said, information is essentially free. Everything is available. What you run into though is because you may not have the vocabulary, so to speak, to understand everything that you might need some expertise in someone that can explain it to you in some language that you may be familiar with. And so that's when I see, so I have a, I have a, I have a friend that, that like he's got a background in astrophysics. So that's great. You know, I just like, Hey, I got a question. And he's like, Oh, and then he, he dumps it down for me. So we talk about like, when we talk about curve space time and things like that, he uses free throws as an example, which is like this brilliant analogy. It's important that you do establish your own understanding first so you have a comparison so you're not not flying in in blindly because we we tend to learn things by analogy and so if if I can acquire new information or a different understanding I I because of the effort that I put in beforehand I have that comparator and so now I can say okay so here's where I was here's the distance that we that we had to to cover. This is the actual representation. Now I can see where it comes from or it just gets me further towards some way that I can understand something that might even be a little beyond my grasp. So the struggle, the struggle is important. Like I said, because number one, there's gotta be an emotional attachment to anything that you learn. Otherwise you won't retain it. It's sort of like when you were in school and they club you over the head with gross anatomy. and physiology and they say, okay, just spit this back out on the test. And you do pretty well. And then it's like you go out into the clinicals and then you have a CI that goes, oh, where's the tibialis posterior attached? And you're going to go, well, it's kind of in this area and it kind of does this because it just wasn't meaningful to you when you were first exposed to that. And it was basically like I said, just spit it on the test. Whereas now, through the discussions that we've had and the interactions on IFAST, you and all of the calls and things. And now you start to see, oh, when you do these things in context, it's a totally different representation. You make it more meaningful. And then the retention is just that much easier because now it's like there's an emotional attachment to it. It's like you have a reason for retaining that information. As far as deciding on when to move on, That's always an interesting question because I think that there's definitely two perspectives. So you've got the mentor and the mentee that both influence the relationship and there's points in time where the mentor has a pretty clear perspective that okay this it's time for you to you know leave the nest and move on and go seek something else like they understand it's like I have topped out I've given you everything that I can it's now up to you to evolve this and then there's also the mentees perspective that says I've had my fill And I want to do something else. And so I don't think there's one way ever to do this. And then I think that that's a discussion that you have too, because there's been a lot of bad representations in the history of mentor and mentee relationships where it eventually turns into butting heads at that point I think that that is pretty clear that it's probably time for somebody to move on because you never wanted to degenerate into that kind of a situation that there's no there's no reason for it because the the whole premise of that relationship in the in the in the first place was for both people to get better right and if it turns into a conflict like that that doesn't make sense to me Like the mentors should never be insulted when the mentee moves on. It's like, okay, that's entirely up to you. And then the mentee shouldn't be hurt when the mentor says, it's time for you to go. Because again, there's emotional investment on both sides. So I understand being human and the emotions involved in it. But there should also be the understanding that this is not a forever relationship. This is not a husband and a wife situation. right? When we reach a point where we feel like we're in the land of diminishing returns, then it's probably time for us to seek other information. Because the more filters you have, the better you're going to be. Because again, most people They get stuck in a system and the system fails. Every system fails. And that's the thing you also want to understand. It's like the minute you marry yourself to a system, you have just, you have just capped your, your capabilities and you don't want to do that. You don't ever grow in.
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